What do I mean by
Anger turn­ing into Sorrow?

When our uncon­scious beliefs turn into con­scious anger, we are very likely to hurt our­selves and the peo­ple we love the most. We lash out very much like young kids in an emo­tional out­burst that is the more pow­er­ful by the close­ness of our con­nec­tion with the per­son we are lash­ing out at. Cre­ates spec­tac­u­lar drama and pain for the per­son on the receiv­ing end of the anger. The sad part, we are really angry with our­selves so we then can beat our­selves up and make our belief of unwor­thi­ness true.

I love the book ‘What You Think of Me Is None of My Busi­ness’ by Terry Cole-Whittaker. When we remem­ber this, we can real­ize that the anger being pro­jected at us is not about us or the anger we are pro­ject­ing is not about the per­son we are aim­ing at. The per­son who is pro­ject­ing the anger is express­ing a deep anger at them­selves that has noth­ing to do with any­one else. Terry’s book goes way deeper into this sub­ject and is a great read. Con­tinue read­ing →

Why do we listen?

What are our Judgments?

When we start to put lim­its on events, peo­ple or sit­u­a­tions, these are our judg­ments. Another word I like to use is our stories.

Our Judg­ments or sto­ries cre­ated by our uncon­scious belief sys­tem and is often the source of much of our drama. We expe­ri­ence some­thing and imme­di­ately start to judge the event or sit­u­a­tion or even per­son by telling our­selves some won­der­ful story about the expe­ri­ence. What’s really nice is we can make up any story we want at this point. One that would sup­port us in feel­ing good or one that sup­ports our fears and thus cre­at­ing some drama. That’s my judg­ment, we are very good at com­ing from our fears and not our love. Con­tinue read­ing →