The tra­di­tion of was­sail­ing
(pro­nounced to rhyme with fossil-ing)is hardly a new one.

In cen­turies past, was­sail­ers went from door to door, singing and drink­ing to the health of their neigh­bors. The con­cept actu­ally harkens back to pre-Christian fer­til­ity rites — only in those cer­e­monies, vil­lagers trav­eled through their fields and orchards in the mid­dle of win­ter, singing and shout­ing to drive away any spir­its that might inhibit the growth of future crops. As part of this, they poured wine and cider on the ground to encour­age fer­til­ity in the crops. Con­tinue read­ing →

Look’n Good!

I love work­ing with my clients as I learn so much about me. This doesn’t mat­ter if they are my coach­ing or web clients. I am learn­ing about who I am around and where I am mak­ing dif­fer­ent choices about my desire to LOOK GOOD!

What do I mean when I say LOOKING GOOD? In my expe­ri­ence and belief sys­tem, my need to look good is tied in with my fear of aban­don­ment on a core level. This is tied in with my avoid­ance of con­fronta­tion at any coast. My devel­op­ing a per­sona to “hide my true self” behind. I don’t love myself. How could any­one else love me? So I do my best to hide and become what I call the human chameleon. I could move in any cir­cle of peo­ple any where in the world and com­pletely dis­ap­pear. I became an expert at becom­ing the invis­i­ble man in plain sight. I spent much of my life feel­ing like the pro­tag­o­nist of Her­man Hesse’s Step­pen­wolf named Harry Haller. Con­tinue read­ing →

Drama, The Spice of Life

I feel that this state­ment is the rea­son many of us stay in a life we are not par­tic­u­larly happy with. What would life be like with­out the emo­tional highs and lows of our drama? BORING!!!

At least that is a belief many of us have. What would our lives look like when we live in our strength and love. When we fill our lives with joy and laugh­ter, as we come across the oppor­tu­ni­ties life gives us that we believe are obsta­cles. Are there no emo­tional highs or lows? Being happy all the time would get old… At least that is what our inner voice tells us. This would be a great time to read Don Miguel Ruiz’s books ‘The Four Agree­ments’ and ‘The Voice of Knowl­edge’ to get more infor­ma­tion on how pow­er­ful that inner voice is in our lives. Con­tinue read­ing →

Who are these strangers?

When we are on social net­works, we get con­tacted by many peo­ple who we have no clue who they are. How do you react to this sit­u­a­tion? Do you open up and let these peo­ple into your life via the social net­work or do you close down? How does this show up in your per­sonal life?

I find that this is a great mir­ror for us to see how we are around peo­ple in gen­eral. Some­one who allows peo­ple into their social net­work space prob­a­bly can go to par­ties and meet new peo­ple pretty eas­ily. Peo­ple who don’t, prob­a­bly have a harder time meet­ing new peo­ple. There is no good or bad or right or wrong. Just an oppor­tu­nity for us to see how we live our lives and then to make a choice if this is work­ing or not work­ing for us. Con­tinue read­ing →

What are our uncon­scious beliefs?

My def­i­n­i­tion is the beliefs we started to make once we had cho­sen our par­ents and made our life com­pact. I have expe­ri­enced being back inside the womb and expe­ri­enc­ing a huge amount of fear. When I real­ized it wasn’t my fear, it was com­ing from out­side of me. Sur­round­ing me. I am my mother’s first child and I was expe­ri­enc­ing her fear of not being in con­trol of her body. From this expe­ri­ence I imme­di­ately decided to make every­thing all right. Even though the expe­ri­ence was very unfo­cused and unde­fined, it was the seed from which I started to build my life expe­ri­ences around. Some 63 years later I am still deal­ing with that seed. From other deci­sions I made from that 1st one I am a care­taker that for many years really was an enabler. Was I con­scious of this? Con­tinue read­ing →